One of the hardest things to contend with as a parent of a highly gifted child is the lack of honest and worthy relationships that our children seem to be able to find among kids of their own age. There's a good reason for that: often, highly gifted children's best friends and relationships are formed by kids who are far different in age than they are. No worries though, as there are solutions to this perplexing dilemma.
Socialization of PG kids does not have to be tortuous or lonely. All our kids need to understand is that what is "typical" in social relationships among kids their ages might not be true for them. This doesn't cast aspersions on anyone; it merely accentuates the fact that being gifted involves as much of the heart as it does the mind.
Your PG kids will be fine once they find their social niche. And trust me…with rare exception, they will find it.
When this seminar began, I had hoped to be able to offer some concrete advice on how to help your PG kids get more tuned in to the socialization arena (if they needed that), continue to progress as the social beings that they are (success breeds success!), or to come to understand that the "rules" of socialization are often unwritten and are neither universally understood nor applied (by adults or kids!). What I came to learn, thanks to the many on-line respondents who shared both advice and solace, was that all I needed to do was put out a "teaser" comment or example, and the rest of you filled in the blanks with stories from your own kids' lives. I may have been the "Captain," but it was the "crew" who came through and did the hardest work. Thank you...and thank each other!
As I read each posting on this topic, I jotted down some notes about the more common pieces of wisdom and experience shared among those who participated. Here are several of them:
Tentative Conclusions (I LOVE oxymoron's)
I hope you enjoyed this on-line seminar and that this synopsis does, indeed, reflect the views of many of you who participated in it. Take care. Hug those kids!
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