Living with emotionally intense children and partners can be turbulent, exciting, challenging, and joyful. Emotionally intense individuals are often accused of "overreacting." Their compassion and concern for others, their focus on relationships, as well as the intensity of their feelings may interfere with every day tasks. It is often quite difficult and demanding to work and live with intense individuals. Those who are not so, find the behaviors unexplainable, frequently incomprehensible, and often bizarre. Intense people living with other intense people often have more compassion and understanding for each other, but may feel conflicts when all the intense people are intense simultaneously. Finding strategies for helping children (and adults) deal with and take advantage of these innate and enduring characteristics may seem difficult. However, resources may be gathered from varied places: counseling, learning style, special education, and classroom management literature; parenting books; even popular business texts.
Below are some specific strategies for helping gifted children and adults to recognize, cope with, cherish and take advantage of their emotional intensity.
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