Thanks so much for joining me for this week of chatting about peer pressure and how it affects your family. I want to remind you that peer pressure is always there, but it does not always have a negative impact on your children. Peer pressure can also lead to fun and laughter that harms no one. It can be equally important in motivating one to lead a life of accomplishment and contribution. Remember always that the words you use to describe your children through praise and discussion to others contribute to their expectations, persona, motivation, pressures and accomplishments. Here are some abbreviated advice statements. Look to my websites sylviarimm.com and seejanewin.com for more.
A father asked his 10-year-old son if he knew about the birds and the bees.
“I don’t want to know,” the child said, bursting into tears. “Promise me you won’t tell me.”
Confused, the father asked what was wrong.
The boy sobbed: “When I was six, I got the ‘There’s no Easter Bunny” speech.
At seven, I got the ‘There’s no Tooth Fairy’ speech.
When I was eight, you hit me with the ‘There’s no Santa’ speech.
If you’re going to tell me that grown-ups don’t really have sex, I’ll have nothing left to live for.”
Growing Up Too Fast: The Rimm Report on the Secret World of America’s Middle Schoolers (Rodale Press, 2005)
How to Parent So Children Will Learn (Great Potential Press, 2008)
Why Bright Kids Get Poor Grades and What You Can Do About It (Great Potential Press, 2008)
See Jane Win: The Rimm Report on How 1000 Girls Became Successful Women (Crown Publishing, 1999)
How Jane Won: 55 Successful Women Share How They Grew From Ordinary Girls to Extraordinary Women (Three Rivers Press, 2001)
See Jane Win for Girls: A Smart Girl’s Guide to Success (Free Spirit Publishing, 2003)
Rescuing the Emotional Lives of Overweight Children: What Our Kids Go Through—And How We Can Help (Rodale Press, 2004)
“The Pressures Bright Children Feel and Why They Underachieve”
“Growing Up Too Fast”
“Growing Up Too Fast--High Schoolers”
“What’s Wrong with Perfect?”
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