Typical, playful teasing is enjoyed by both parties. Kids may joke and laugh at each other but both find it funny and participate.
Teasing is name-calling or taunting that is not meant to be hurtful but is not appreciated by the recipient. It can be the same as playful teasing but one party does not find it funny. Most teasing can be handled by kids telling the other kid to stop.
Bullying is hurtful and intentional. There is often an imbalance of power in bullying where the bully has some power over the victim. The power can be physical, emotional or to get attention of others. Bullying is often repetitive but not always. The victim often feels helpless.
It is very hard to define the difference and it is often in the eye of the beholder. An adult may think it was harmless but the child may be VERY hurt. We need to remember to take the perspective of the child.
Some adults believe that bullying is just part of growing up. Unfortunately that is true but we have now learned the terrible, detrimental effects that bullying can have on children. We as adults need to change the pattern of typical behavior to make bullying unacceptable.
How to handle Bullying:
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