Tips for Parents: Leadership Skills for Gifted Kids
Balzac, S.
Davidson Institute for Talent Development
2012

This Tips for Parents article is from a seminar hosted by Stephen R. Balzac of 7 Steps Ahead. He highlights a number of helpful tips on leadership and decision-making.

Key points on leadership

  • Leadership is a function of the situation, the person, and the group
  • A group without a leader is a disorganized horde
  • A leader without a group is just some joker taking a walk
  • Most of what we think of as leadership is a myth based on TV, movies, books, etc
    • Most “leadership behaviors” are not leadership, they are tools of leadership
      • For example, setting the agenda is not leadership, but a leader might do it especially in the early stage of a group

The leader and the group

  • You cannot separate the leader from the group
  • Being a good leader in one group doesn’t mean you’ll be a good leader with another group
    • It depends on the people, situation, project, etc
  • Groups go through developmental stages and hence leadership must as well
    • Group stages and psychological characteristics
      • Forming – Dependency and inclusion
      • Storming – Counter-dependency and fight
      • Norming – Trust and structure
      • Performing – High performance
    • Corresponding leader behaviors
      • Telling – Forming groups are chaotic and need structure
      • Selling – Storming groups require negotiation and persuasion in order to grow
      • Participating – The leader is an active part of the group
      • Delegating – The leader acts as advisor, consultant, and strategic thinker
  • You have to build the group before you can solve the problem or work on the project
    • Sometimes these things will happen simultaneously

Six methods of decision making

  • Plop!
    • Ideas are suggested one after another. Each idea plops to the ground
    • Many floors are covered in plops
    • Common in early stage groups with no leadership or where the leader isn’t providing direction
  • Autocratic rule
    • The leader makes the decisions
    • May or may not request member input
    • Members may or may not be capable of executing decisions
    • Good for simple problems, but breaks down as complexity increases
    • Necessary for Forming groups, can be deadly in Storming
  • Minority rule
    • One or two people hijack the decision making process
      • “Let’s do it this way, anyone object? Okay, let’s go.”
      • Person 1 says, “Let’s do this, what do you think?” and person 2 says, “Yes, let’s go. Decision made.”
  • Voting
    • Culturally normal in western democracies
    • Surprisingly difficult to do well. Takes a fairly sophisticated group and leader.
    • Creates coalitions and opposition if not handled well.
  • Consensus
    • Not unanimity, but agreement that the group can agree
    • Each person must feel heard
    • Each person must feel comfortable with supporting the decision the group makes
    • Check for readiness before voting
    • Is a relatively sophisticated form of decision making; requires patience from the leader and some degree of group development. Forming groups have trouble with consensus.
  • Unanimous consent
    • Sounds good, but rarely possible. Focus on consensus.

Key emotions in leadership

  • Fear – extremely popular, but very destructive. Leaders who unite the group or motivate through fear are trapping the group in underperformance
  • Relatedness – The leader needs to model building connections and appreciation between members
    • Build the status of each person
  • Autonomy – People need the freedom to work as they see fit
    • Autonomy results from having structure, not from lack of structure
    • When you tell people how to do their work, you step on their autonomy
  • Competence – Create an atmosphere of competence
    • Focus on success, not failure
    • Paint an optimistic vision
    • Find opportunities to praise accomplishments both related to the group project and outside of it

Stephen Balzac is a consultant and professional speaker. He is president of 7 Steps Ahead (www.7stepsahead.com), an organizational development firm focused on helping businesses to increase revenue and build their client base. Steve is the author of “The 36-Hour Course in Organizational Development,” due out from McGraw-Hill in Fall 2010. Contact him at 978-298-5189 or steve@7stepsahead.com.


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